Where to Focus

  • As you explore different options, there are a series of questions you can ask yourself to continually narrow in on the habits and areas that will be most satisfying to you:
    • What feels like fun to me, but work to others?
      • The mark of whether you are made for a task is not whether you love it but whether you can handle the pain of the task easier than most people. When are you enjoying yourself while other people are complaining? The work that hurts you less than it hurts others is the work you were made to do.

    • What makes me lose track of time?
      • Flow is the mental state you enter when you are so focused on the task at hand that the rest of the world fades away. This blend of happiness and peak performance is what athletes and performers experience when they are in the zone. It is nearly impossible to experience a flow state and not find the task satisfying at least to some degree. Flow state

    • Where do I get greater returns than the average person?
      • We are continually comparing ourselves to those around us, and a behavior is more likely to be satisfying when the comparison is in our favor.

    • What comes naturally to me?
      • No internal judgments or people-pleasing. No second-guessing or self-criticism. Just feelings of engagement and enjoyment. Whenever you feel authentic and genuine, you are headed in the right direction.

      • The secret to maximizing your odds of success is to choose the right field of competition. Pick the right habit and progress is easy. Pick the wrong habit and life is a struggle.

      • Genes cannot be easily changed, which means they provide a powerful advantage in favorable circumstances and a serious disadvantage in unfavorable circumstances.

    • How to be motivated:
      • The Goldilocks rule:
        • Humans experience peak motivation when working on tasks that are right on the edge of their current abilities.

      • The greatest threat to success is not failure but boredom

  • Habits + Deliberate Practice = Mastery
    • The tighter we cling to an identity, the harder it becomes to grow beyond it.